The story describing the pattern tells you to empty your cup to learn from someone. It’s one of the greatest advices you can get from anyone actually, but this stance applies not only to learning from someone, but to everything else in life.
You might have noticed, when you meet really great people, there is an aura of humbleness and calm around them, they go into every new situation in life, every new conversation with a stranger with an empty cup.
Maybe it is time for you to do the same.
Take off your emotional baggage and your useless ego, empty your cup and be ready to learn from life.
Egos (and a full cup) will lead you to nowhere.